What Resembles the Grave but Isn’t

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by Anne Boyer

Always falling into a hole, then saying “ok, this is not your grave, get out of this hole,” getting out of the hole which is not the grave, falling into a hole again, saying “ok, this is also not your grave, get out of this hole,” getting out of that hole, falling into another one; sometimes falling into a hole within a hole, or many holes within holes, getting out of them one after the other, then falling again, saying “this is not your grave, get out of the hole”; sometimes being pushed, saying “you can not push me into this hole, it is not my grave,” and getting out defiantly, then falling into a hole again without any pushing; sometimes falling into a set of holes whose structures are predictable, ideological, and long dug, often falling into this set of structural and impersonal holes; sometimes falling into holes with other people, with other people, saying “this is not our mass grave, get out of this hole,” all together getting out of the hole together, hands and legs and arms and human ladders of each other to get out of the hole that is not the mass grave but that will only be gotten out of together; sometimes the willful-falling into a hole which is not the grave because it is easier than not falling into a hole really, but then once in it, realizing it is not the grave, getting out of the hole eventually; sometimes falling into a hole and languishing there for days, weeks, months, years, because while not the grave very difficult, still, to climb out of and you know after this hole there’s just another and another; sometimes surveying the landscape of holes and wishing for a high quality final hole; sometimes thinking of who has fallen into holes which are not graves but might be better if they were; sometimes too ardently contemplating the final hole while trying to avoid the provisional ones; sometimes dutifully falling and getting out, with perfect fortitude, saying “look at the skill and spirit with which I rise from that which resembles the grave but isn’t!”

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Anonymous asked:

AITA for assuming something was there when it wasn't?

I (20M) have been in love with my friend (21F) for 7 years. For a while, I thought she knew this and we had an unspoked relationship. I thought this because we moved in together as soon as we could, we sleep in the same bed together, we're closer together than with anyone else, we make dinner together and dance in our living room together to music, and we have even shared kisses and made love. We also have a book we have been writing together about two people deeply in love, and a lot of their experiences are based on ours. Recently, she has told me that she has started dating a guy she works with. I was distraught and I asked her "what about us?" and she seemed genuinely confused. She told me she never thought of us as in love, and she only ever saw me as a friend. I told her how I felt and she just shrugged. I've been sleeping in another room for the past few nights to think to myself. Am I the asshole for thinking we were dating?

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Anonymous asked: WIBTA for sabotaging my boyfriend's hookup with his girlfriend by filling his sex playlist with DJ Crazytimes

I (28NB, they/he) have known my boyfriend (call him C, 29M, he/him) for some 15ish years now. As long as I've known him, he has been on and off again with his girlfriend (call him T, 29NB, he/him). Respectfully, and with love, C and T are two of the worst and most annoying people I know. I want to marry them both specifically so that I can study them under a microscope like a parasitic virus.

Technically they're monogamous, but they're both hooking up with other people (myself included), usually the same people, because they have the same taste in lovers (bad). I have suggested that they give actual polyamory a try, and they reject the idea wholeheartedly. I think they get off on their dynamic, and far be it from me to try more than the bare minimum to dissuade them from it.

A couple months back, they got into a fight and broke up (again) because T (who was unemployed at the time) stole $50 from C (who works at GameStop) so that he could pay for a tank of gas (using C's car) to go hook up with another guy a couple states over. C was not upset that T was hooking up with another guy (because he was Also hooking up with that guy and knew he would not have a leg to stand on), but because of the stolen money + car.

C and I currently live together, because you can't afford an apartment on a GameStop salary, and also, like I said, he's my boyfriend. I'm making carnitas tacos next Friday, and T is coming over, because despite everything, he has nothing else to do on a Friday night. I know that C and T are going to get into a huge fight, and I know that it's probably either going to end with them getting back together out of spite or with someone's vehicle getting keyed--I'm betting on both.

Here's where I think I might be the asshole. I would really like to get inbetween them. Not in a "I don't want you to date each other" kind of way, but in a "holy shit you are both so insufferable i would like to get in on that" kind of way. I currently have my thing with C, and I've hooked up with T once in the past, but I would really like to make it official with him as well.

My plan is as follows: C and T are going to be in the same space again next Friday. They're going to fight, then hook up, then get back together again. C is one of those cybersexual "i built my own computer and run it on Linux" people, which is to say, he thinks tiktok and youtube are evil, and he he thinks spotify premium is supporting megacorporations. So, his sex playlist for T (we do not have our own sex playlist) is just an actual folder of mp3 files.

While C is at work, I'm going to log into his computer and change several of those mp3 files to DJ Crazytimes' Planet of the Bass, which I play often, and he is frequently annoyed by. My hope is that he'll realize it was me, he'll come and yell at me for ruining their hookup, T will take my side to piss him off, and the tension will get to the point where they let me join their hookup, and I can ask to date both of them after that.

To be clear, I recognize that I'm also Incredibly Toxic for enabling and encouraging this behavior. That said, I feel like I'm justified in this scenario considering C and T are both Also toxic, and furthermore, it is a known fact that I'm dating C right now, so for them to hook up, C would technically be cheating on me. I asked C's sister (a childhood friend of mine) for her take on whether it would be funny or just annoying, and she just told me that we all deserve each other, so I think I should be good. Am I being uniquely shitty here?

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Hi! I’m OP! A lot of folks in the replies were asking for an update to this and, well, this actually already happened, so!

We did not end up getting as far as the DJ crazytimes playlist. This is because

1. T ended up proposing before carnitas night came around
2. C said yes for some reason
3. T and I did end up hooking up again, I asked if we could all date and he said he didn’t think C would like it, but said that he’s into it if I’m down–so, I’m dating both of them now, which I guess makes us a throuple? C doesn’t know we’re a throuple yet but I think it’ll be fine
4. They actually had a courthouse wedding on Thursday

Some additional info!

• Apparently C’s sister thought I was joking! I was not joking. So when she found out that I’m actually chill being part of all of this she got a little weird about it
• She did not go to the wedding (C was very sad about this, T was fine bc he and C’s sister hate each other)
• C found out about the playlist thing before I intended for him to, bc apparently he doesn’t JUST use that playlist for sex (it’s also his bathtime playlist). He was pretty annoyed because he had to remake the playlist, but it wasn’t, like, a relationship ending or creating thing. Sorry for the anticlimax there!

I’ve also got my askbox open if anyone has any questions that don’t just amount to “go to therapy”! <3

I do feel honor-bound to report that this blog has been quite active and I’m kind of living for whatever the hell they have going on so